Becoming

I looked for a massage workshop near me and to my delight (and surprise) I found one that was only a five minute walk away from home. Unfortunately, it costs over a thousand dollars to enroll. Out of the question. So, I went to amazon.com and found Massage for Dummies. I also found Aromatherapy for Dummies, which will be nice to have as well, since the workshop at the massage place is almost three thousand dollars. How do people sleep at night with these prices? So, being on the "for Dummies" path, I looked for other books that may be of use to me, in the beginning or throughout my career.

Massage for Dummies
Aromatherapy for Dummies
Stress Management for Dummies
Sex for Dummies
Etiquette for Dummies
Container Gardening for Dummies
Feng Shui for Dummies
Acupressure and Reflexology for Dummies
Buddhism for Dummies

Maybe one day I'll have the money to spare for a certification in massage and aromatherapy. Until then, books are more than lovely!

I believe bathing is an essential part of a person's relaxation of both the mind and body. The water soothes the muscles and naturally puts the mind at ease. Having someone bathe you slowly can bring an element of sensuality to the situation and can ease your body into the next phase of ritual, the massage.

As far as I know (and remember, I could be wrong many a time here. This is, after all, an exploratory venture), the Greek bath consisted of rinsing, washing, rinsing again, scraping of the skin and then "anointing", or applying oil (usually olive). Now, how would I adapt that for today? I don't know if many people would consider getting scraped a very soothing experience, and it's often warned against by today's beauty gurus. Slathering olive oil all over someone would probably wreak havoc on their skin, these days, too. I think if I replaced the scraping with a mild exfoliant that I gently rubbed over the skin of my patron, that would work well enough. Oil actually meant for the skin could be used for people who can take oil, and then there are all types of different lotions all the way up to the water based, light kinds for people who have very sensitive skin (like mine).

After the bath was complete, I would begin the toweling off ritual where I asked my patron to stand in a comfortable position while I patted them dry. It would also be a slow, sensual deal. After they are comfortably dry, I'd take them to the main room where the bed would be and begin on their total body massage.

So far, this is my basic, rough outline for what my entire soothing ritual would be like.

1. Tea, light chatting, allowing the patron to steer the conversation unless it's clear they are unable/unwilling. This would probably be the time to find out about any questions they had or anything. Preferences and such would already be out of the way because of some kind of screening process beforehand, which I have not yet devised.

2. Undressing, bathing, drying off. Ideally, a very large copper tub is what I would have. The kind with clawed feet. I'd also have the shower head detachable (and matching the tub, not some white plastic thing) for added ease. I would want it big enough so that I could be in the tub with them if desired or sit on a stool on the outside. Soft towels go without saying. A silk robe would also probably be provided.

3. Massage. Massaging the entire body and using lotion/oil/skin stuff.

4. If I deem it acceptable, sex.

5. Pillow talk if the patron desires it. Light psychotherapy fits here.

Throughout, there would probably be some music (Asian, Middle Eastern, Mediterranean?) and aromatherapy. I was thinking there could also be variations depending on the patron's preferences. The tea, the music, the mood they want (to a degree), and the sex (also to a degree).

I will be expanding and refining this list throughout my journey.

Topics to Come:
Room Decor
Color Psychology
Self Decor
Music
Tea Ceremony
Bathing
Appealing to the senses
Sex
Flowers
Massage
Dance
Kama Sutra
Tantra

This journal was created with the intent to document my exploration into the realm of the art of soothing another person. It will include my thoughts on various subjects (sex, how to engage the senses, etc) as well as more informational posts on things like tea ceremonies and forms of appropriate entertainment.

Women of entertainment and pleasure have always existed. It is unfortunate that some have been forced to drop so low as to be mistreated and malnourished. This blog will be about my quest to elevate society's general idea of Companions to where it once was, before soothing natural human feelings and urges became immoral.